Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos אין לו להקב"ה בעולמו אלא ד' אמות של הלכה בלבד... The Source Reason. Volume 6 Issue 12

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1 Authored by Rabbi Moishe Dovid Lebovits Reviewed by Rabbi Benzion Schiffenbauer Shlita Piskei Harav Yisrael Belsky Shlita are Reviewed by Harav Yisrael Belsky Shlita Volume 6 Issue 12 Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos Birchas hamozon (or bentching) encompasses many halachos. Many people avoid bread because they do not want to bentch. This issue will deal with many issues, such as who is obligated in bentching? Should one use a siddur? Is one required to wear a hat and jacket? What is the proper nusach of bentching? The Source Reason The posuk in Eikev 1 says that one who eats and is satisfied is mevorech. If he is not satisfied, then his obligation is of Rabbinic origin. 2 The Chinuch 3 offers this reason for bentching after we eat bread. Hashem created everything good, and He wants us to have 1. 8:10. See Meseches Berochos 48b. Refer to Bal Haturim, Rambam 8: Meseches Berochos ibid, Rambam Hilchos Berochos 1:1. 3. Mitzvah 430. Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos 1 אין לו להקב"ה בעולמו אלא ד' אמות של הלכה בלבד... ח.( )ברכות

2 good as well. By recognizing Hashem as the source of all blessings, we merit to receive those blessings. Reward The Chinuch 4 says, I have a tradition from my rabbeim, that those who are careful with bentching will receive their mezonos (i.e. parnasa) in an honorable fashion all of their days. The poskim note that there is no Hebrew letter pei in the entire bentching. This is because one who bentches properly merits that no anger will fall on him from Hashem. 5 (The terms for anger, af and ketzef, end with a pei). Women There is an obligation for women to bentch, but there is an uncertainty if this obligation is d oraisa or d rabbanan in nature. 6 This is based on the Torah s statement that we, bentch Hashem for the good land which He gave you. This statement cannot apply to women who generally do not inherit land. 7 Those women who are lenient and do not bentch are acting incorrectly. 8 Based on this uncertainty, a woman who was satisfied but is not sure if she bentched does not have to bentch, but may do so if she desires. 9 Children A parent should be mechanech his children in bentching. 10 This applies even if a child only at a kezayis. 11 The age for chinuch depends on the intelligence of the child. 12 The Mishnah Berurah 13 says that one should train his children to say a shorter version of bentching a little at a time until he is ready to say the entire bentching Ibid. Refer to Ateres Zekanim 185:1, Elya Rabbah 185:1, Mishnah Berurah 184:1, Aruch Hashulchan 189:7. 5. Be er Heitiv 185:1, Elya Rabbah 185:1, Aruch Hashulchan 189:7. השונה כל הלכות יום בכל מובטח שהוא לו עולם בן הבא... עג.( )נדה 6. Refer to Meseches Berochos 20b, Rashi noshim, Tosfas noshim, Shulchan Aruch 186:1, Magen Avraham 1, Taz 1, Levush 1, Shulchan Aruch Harav 1, Chinuch mitzvah 430, Chayei Adom 47:2, Mishnah Berurah 2, Aruch Hashulchan 3, Kaf Hachaim 3, Yechaveh Daas 6: Rashi Meseches Berochos ibid oy. 8. Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1: Mishnah Berurah 3, Biur Halacha eleh. See Aruch Hashulchan 184:9. Others say she should hear bentching from someone else (Piskei Teshuvos 186:2). 10. Shulchan Aruch 186:2, Levush 2, Elya Rabbah 3, Aruch Hashulchan 4, Kaf Hachaim 2, V sein Beracha pages , see Shulchan Aruch Harav 3, opinion of Harav Elyashiv Shlita quoted in Ashri Yiladito 1:page 215: Mishnah Berurah Chanoch L nar 15:1. See V sein Beracha page 288:footnote : Refer to Halichos Shlomo Tefillah 1:8, Chinuch Yisroel 1:2:10. 2 HAlAchicY SpeAKiNg

3 A child who claims that he bentched is believed and one does not have to make sure he bentches again. 15 How Much? In order for one to be obligated in bentching min hatorah one has to eat a shiur which is satisfying, but if one eats a kezayis he is obligated m d rabbanan. 16 This is not equal to all people since everyone has different eating habits. 17 One who ate a kezayis and is in doubt if he bentched does not bentch because it is sofek on a d rabbanan. 18 It is preferable to eat the shiur of a kezayis or more within four minutes. 19 Which Language? The opinion of some poskim is that bentching can be recited in any language. 20 However, loshon kodesh is the most preferred language. 21 One is yotzei bentching even if he does not understand what he is saying only if he recites it in loshon kodesh. 22 It is worthwhile to invest time to understand the words of bentching. 23 Using a Siddur The poskim say that one should be careful and bentch from a siddur. 24 It is noted that Harav Moshe Feinstein zt l would use a siddur if it was readily available, but bentched by heart when it was not. 25 Hearing What You Say Before reciting birchas hamazon, one should have in mind that he is fulfilling a mitzvah d oraisa and say it with great simcha. 26 L chatchilah, all berachos should be recited loud enough to hear. B dieved one is yotzei as long as he actually said the words. 27 However, 15. Rivevos Ephraim 5:172: Mishnah Berurah 184:22, Aruch Hashulchan 184:9. Refer to Ba al Haturim Eikev 8:10, Otzros Ha beracha page 185: Mishnah Berurah 184:22. See Biur Halacha kezayis. 18. Aruch Hashulchan 184:4, Yechaveh Daas 6:10, see Tzitz Eliezer 11: Opinion of Harav Elyashiv Shlita quoted in Vezos Ha beracha page 141. See Igros Moshe O.C. 4: Rambam Hilchos Berochos 6:1, Shulchan Aruch 185:1, Levush 1. See Aruch Hashulchan 185: Mishnah Berurah 185: Aruch Hashulchan 185:4. See Shulchan Aruch Harav 185: Birchos Habayis 41: Be er Heitiv 185:1, Mishnah Berurah 185:1, Vezos Ha beracha page 140: As related by Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita. See Rivevos Ephraim 6:120: Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1: Rambam Hilchos Berochos 1:7, Shulchan Aruch 185:2, Levush 2, Aruch Hashulchan 9, Yabea Omer O.C. 4:18. אין לו להקב"ה בעולמו אלא ד' אמות של הלכה בלבד... ח.( )ברכות Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos 3

4 many poskim say that he is not yotzei. 28 The Biur Halacha 29 explains that the stringent view does not mean that one is not yotzei, but that it is not the preferred method. Merely thinking of the berochos is not permitted for a healthy person. 30 If one is in a noisy place, some say that it is not necessary to raise his voice until he hears the beracha. 31 However, if possible, one should try to say the beracha loud enough that someone next to him will be able to answer amen. 32 Out Loud It is a good idea to bentch out loud, because this arouses concentration, and one will not forget the various additions to bentching, such as ya ale v yavo. 33 The Chayei Adom 34 says that one should bentch with fear, concentration and simcha. Bentching is Comparable to Shemonei Esrei When one bentches he should be in the same mind set as when he davens shemonei esrei. 35 Many poskim say that one cannot answer amen or other devarim sh bekedusha during bentching. 36 One may not make finger motions during bentching. 37 These rules do not apply after the fourth beracha of hatov v hameitiv. 38 Others say that one should avoid any hefsek until after he has finished bentching if possible. 39 The Chazzon Ish zt l 40 was of the Refer to Pischei Halacha (Berochos) 1:footnote 21, see Piskei Teshuvos 185:footnote Sharei Teshuva 1, Birchei Yosef 2, Levush 2. The Ben Ish Chai Chulas 1:7 says if one bentched without hearing what he said he should eat more and bentch again while hearing the words :3 v im lav, see Shulchan Hatohar 185:1 in zer zahav. Refer to Yabea Omer ibid. 30. Magen Avraham 1, Elya Rabbah 2, Machtzis Ha shekel 1, Be er Heitiv 1, Aruch Hashulchan 10. The Mishnah Berurah 185:2 says one is not yotzei entirely. 31. Halichos Shlomo Tefillah 22:4, Sharei Ha beracha 10:footnote 20 quoting this as being the opinion of Harav Wosner Shlita. השונה כל הלכות יום בכל מובטח שהוא לו עולם בן הבא... עג.( )נדה 32. Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita, see Machtzis Hashekel 6:9, Rivevos Ephraim 1:39:2, Be er Moshe 3:1 Tzitz Eliezer 11: Mishnah Berurah 185: : Shulchan Aruch 183:8, Levush 8, Rav Akiva Eiger 1, Mishnah Berurah 30. Some say it is not exactly like shemonei esrei (opinion of Harav Shlomo Zalman Aurbach zt l quoted in V sein Beracha page 311:footnote 27, see Shulchan Aruch Harav 185:5). 36. Chesed L alafim 183:6, Mishnah Berurah 30, Aruch Hashulchan 183:8, Kaf Hachaim 183:45, Betzel Hachuchma 4: Aruch Hashulchan 183:8 38. Aruch Hashulchan 183:8. Refer to Shar Ha tzyion Pri Megadim M.Z. 189:1. See Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1: O.C. 28:3. See Ketzos Hashulchan 45:badi 12, Oz Nedberu 6:49:2. 4 HAlAchicY SpeAKiNg

5 opinion that one may answer to kedusha and borchu in middle of a beracha, and amen is permitted in between berochos. However, the custom follows the stringent opinion. 41 When someone is bentching, his neighbor should be careful not to disturb him. Therefore, one should avoid conversing with another while someone else is bentching close by. 42 One should be properly dressed while reciting bentching. 43 Wearing a bathrobe is unacceptable. 44 Some say that it is proper to wear a hat and jacket. 45 The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 46 says that doing so brings one to fear of Hashem and will increase concentration during bentching. The Chazzon Ish zt l only wore a big yarmulke and did not wear a hat for bentching. The Stiepler zt l only wore a hat without a jacket. 47 Standing vs. Sitting One should sit during bentching. 48 The Levush 49 says that this aids concentration. One who bentched while standing, walking, or with kalos rosh was yotzei, 50 but it is not a good thing to do. 51 One should sit for the fourth beracha even though it is d rabbanan, in order not to treat the beracha with disrespect. 52 The Nusach of Bentching In the context of bentching, the Torah mentions, food, the land, and good. The three berochos correspond to these three things. Moshe composed the first beracha of bentching, 41. Refer to Rivevos Ephraim 1:148, Yabea Omer O.C. 1: V sein Beracha page V sein Beracha page 312:footnote V sein Beracha page 311. See Rivevos Ephraim 5:106, Ashri Yiladito 1:page 216: See Meseches Berochos 51b, Bach 183, Magen Avraham 5, Elya Rabbah 16, Machtzis Ha shekel 5, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 44:6, Mishnah Berurah 11, Salmas Chaim 181:page 51, Ohr L tzyion 2:13:3. The Halichos Shlomo Tefillah 2:73 is lenient for a cholah not to put the jacket on all the way, rather over the shoulders is fine. Refer to Vezos Ha beracha page 140:4, who quotes from the Chazzon Ish zt l that the jacket may be worn on the shoulders even not for a cholah, see Orchos Rabbeinu 3:page 207:7. The Aruch Hashulchan 183:4 holds there is no need for a jacket, see Tzitz Eliezer 13:13. Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita says not wearing a hat and jacket while bentching is something that one should grow out of as he matures (Refer to Doleh U mashka page 111) : Orchos Rabbeinu 1:74:page Tosfas Meseches Berochos 51a v hilchasa, Shulchan Aruch 183:8, Shulchan Aruch Harav 183:13, Mishnah Berurah 31, Aruch Hashulchan 183:8, Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1:4. Refer to Yisroel B mamadam 17: : Aruch Hashulchan 183: Levush 183: Mishnah Berurah 183:31, see Shar Ha tzyion 37 who seems to be unsure about this point. אין לו להקב"ה בעולמו אלא ד' אמות של הלכה בלבד... ח.( )ברכות Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos 5

6 and Yehoshua composed the second beracha. 53 The third beracha was composed by Dovid and Shlomo Hamelech. 54 The fourth beracha of hatov v hameitiv is not a d oraisa. 55 The end of the fourth beracha is al yechasreinu. 56 Although we do not generally answer amen after our own berochos, amen is recited after the beracha of boneh to separate between berochos which are d oraisa and d rabbanan. 57 The harchaman s that are recited after the fourth beracha are tachnunim, just like we say tachnunim after shemonei esrei. 58 Although we do not ask for personal needs on Shabbos, 59 the custom is to recite the harchaman s even on Shabbos. 60 Harav Shlomo Zalman Aurbach zt l is of the opinion that one may skip from the end of the fourth beracha until the end of bentching. 61 However, why would one want to decline all those berochos? 62 Migdol and Magdil The widespread custom is that on Shabbos 63 (and Yom Tov, 64 Rosh Chodesh, 65 Motzei Shabbos, 66 Chol Hamoed 67 and Chanukah) 68 we say migdol, and during the week (and on 53. Tur 187, Shulchan Aruch Harav 187: Levush 188:1, Shulchan Aruch Harav 187: Tur 189, Shulchan Aruch 189:1, Aruch Hashulchan 189:1, Kaf Hachaim 189:1. Refer to Aruch Hashulchan why there is a fourth beracha in bentching. See Prisha 189: Elya Rabbah 189:1, Aruch Hashulchan 189: Shulchan Aruch 188:1, Mishnah Berurah 188:2, see Pri Megadim M.Z. 51:2. השונה כל הלכות יום בכל מובטח שהוא לו עולם בן הבא... עג.( )נדה 58. Aruch Hashulchan 189:7. See Tur 189 who questions the recital of the harachaman s. 59. Refer to Shulchan Aruch Darchei Moshe 188:4, Shulchan Hatohar 186:6. See Massei Rav Hachodesh 19 who argues. 61. V sein Beracha page 304:footnote 5. See Lekutei Maharich page 246 (new) who says if one has an o nes he does not have to say the harachaman s. 62. Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita. See Aruch Hashulchan 188: Taamei Haminhagim (Shabbos) 377:page See Tzohar 9:page Elya Rabbah 187:1, Aruch Hashulchan 189: Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1:19, Kaf Hachaim Palagi 31:59, Chesed L alafim 189:page 346, Kaf Hachaim 189:11, 300: Lekutei Maharich page 249 (new). 68. Shulchan Aruch Hamekutzar 32:9. 6 HAlAchicY SpeAKiNg

7 Purim, 69 and at a siyum where bread is served) 70 we say magdil. 71 However, the Boruch Sh omar 72 says that the whole concept is a mistake. One posuk is from Tehillim 73 (magdil), and one posuk is in Shmuel Bais 74 (migdol). The letters bais shin bais were printed (before migdol) in the margin of the siddur, which stands for Shmuel Bais. However, people misunderstood it to mean that migdol is only recited on Shabbos. In essence, however, there is only one nusach, and magdil is never recited. Others disagree with this. 75 It is not a simple matter to say that all the poskim who discuss the difference between the weekday and Shabbos bentching with reference to migdol and magdil were in error. 76 Using a Cup (of Wine etc) for Bentching There is a discussion in the poskim if one needs to bentch on a cup of wine. 77 The accepted custom is to use a cup. 78 However, it depends on how many people are present. The Shulchan Aruch 79 maintains that if one bentches alone he should bentch with a cup, 80 while others only require it for a zimun (at least three people bentching). Although it may be a preferred mitzvah to bentch with a cup even while alone, 81 the custom of many is to use a cup when bentching with at least with three people. 82 However, this is not an obligation. 83 The purpose of the wine is to honor the mitzvah See Tzohar 9:page Kaf Hachaim 189: Avudraham page 326, Darchei Moshe 189:1, Magen Avraham 189:1, Shulchan Aruch Harav 188:4, Chesed L alafim 189:page 346, Mishnah Berurah 189:5, Aruch Hashulchan 189:7, Kaf Hachaim 189:11, Shulchan Hatoahr Zer Zahav 187:footnote 156. See Yeshurin 6:pages , Tzohar 9:pages Refer to Otzer Kol Minhagei Yeshurin page Pages This is the opinion of Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita as well. Refer to Heichel Rashi page : :22: Refer to Piskei Teshuvos 189:3:footnote 9. See Vuvim L amudim pages in great depth. 76. Tzohar 9:page Refer to Rambam Hilchos Berochos 7:15, Bach 182, Aruch Hashulchan 182:1, Kaf Hachaim 182: Tur : Refer to Magen Avraham Rama 182:1, Aruch Hashulchan 182:3, Tehilla L Dovid 182:1. Refer to Eishel Avraham Butchatch Pri Megadim Eishel Avraham 182:1, Ben Ish Chai Shelach 1:16, Mishnah Berurah 182:4, Shar Ha tzyion 182:3, Aruch Hashulchan 182:1, Ohr L tyzion 2:46:20, see Malbushei Yom Tov 182:1, Be er Heitiv 182:1. Others did not use a cup even when bentching with three people (Orchos Rabbeinu 1:page 83:73 quoting the custom of the Steipler zt l and the Chazzon Ish zt l). 83. Igros Moshe Y.D 3: Levush 182:1, Mishnah Berurah 182:1. In addition to being al pi kabbalah (Levush ibid). אין לו להקב"ה בעולמו אלא ד' אמות של הלכה בלבד... ח.( )ברכות Birchas Hamozon Selected Halachos 7

8 The Aruch Hashulchan 85 says that in his days they did not use a cup since wine was expensive. However, today this reason is not valid. 86 Some people are makpid to bentch with a cup on Shabbos, and not during the week. One reason is that one is in a rush during the week, as opposed to Shabbos. 87 Vomited There is a discussion in the poskim whether one is required to bentch if he vomited. One who forgot to bentch and threw up much later should still bentch. 88 Halachically Speaking volume 2. Do you have it already? Hard-to-Find Halacha for Everyday Living השונה כל הלכות יום בכל מובטח שהוא לו עולם בן הבא... עג.( )נדה : Refer to Piskei Teshuvos 182:footnote Rivevos Ephraim 1:50: Refer to Ben Ish Chai Chukas 1:13, Rivevos Ephraim 8:418:page 263, Shevet Hakehasi 5:40, See Kaf Hachaim 184:34, Ketzos Hashulchan 44:badi 3. 8 HAlAchicY SpeAKiNg

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